"For readers of either gender who really want to understand  what makes members of the opposite sex tick..."  ForeWord Magazine

Reviewed by Managing Editor Whitney Hallberg 

The review is posted in ForeWord Magazine online. 

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It should come as no surprise to learn that men and women are different--physiologically, biologically, psychologically different. We want different things, we react in different ways, and we look for different qualities in our mates… books from independent publishers are here to satisfy women's cravings for relationship advice, empowerment, and understanding.

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For readers of either gender who really want to understand what makes members of the opposite sex tick, Richard Driscoll, Ph.D., and Nancy Ann Davis, Ph.D., present a scientific look at the differences between men and women in Opposites as Equals ** (Westside Psychology). The book, which uses evolutionary psychology to explain behavior, is both informative and disheartening. Take the study that showed that, "Men who stray often do so for the thrill of the sex and for the pleasure, but mainly because the opportunity presents itself--and not because their marriages are empty or sexually unsatisfying."

The studies are fascinating and provide insight into relationships. For example, in an experiment that studied stress and heart rate during arguments between couples, it was found that women most often dominate arguments and that, "men are markedly more intimidated by angry women than women are by angry men." Men often respond by withdrawing and becoming quiet. The authors write that this is merely a "masquerade," and the silence helps men cope with the stress of the situation.

Pieces of advice marked with gender symbols break up the text. In a chapter that discusses why men remain silent on some issues, even though women may prefer them to speak, the authors recommend, "Try to understand the problems instead of being upset about them. Your otherwise reserved husband will be more willing to open up." While the book may not have all the answers to the problems in a relationship, it will certainly help readers understand their partner's perspective on many issues.

** Note: The 1st printing reviewed here was titled You Still Don't Understand

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